How Is Time Up?
by Stefania Johnson aka Ste
As we progress forward in our life, a new year, a new job, a new relationship, or just the same ones, we are riddled with thoughts of how much time we have left and some of us make decisions based on the fact that we don’t really have that much time and we really don’t even know when our time is up. We want so much out of the life we are creating and why shouldn’t we? The one thing we sometimes miss is how we walk through life and those who walk with us on the journey. There are those who don’t carry through on the journey, those who step aside to either let us go or let us grow. There are those who no longer serve themselves or you on your journey, maybe the mission is no longer theirs, maybe it’s no longer yours, maybe it’s no longer ours. We must understand that maturity also means being ok with people coming in and out of our lives and to know when their time is up if the journey no longer suits their purpose or yours. I’ve traveled life thinking my school-age friends would all still be with me as I reached my next plateau in life, realistically, a small percentage, if any, will still be there, even if they are no longer in your physical presence. I learned that those who I thought would walk with me through my early adult life would remain but then some others fell off, their time was up. Then I carried relationships, long-term relationships, which I thought would be on the rest of my journey, and found their time was up as well. Yes, these carried me with a heavy heart then but, through my healing process and understanding that some were not meant to walk with me any longer; I realized how much of a blessing it was to have them at that time and place where I was still growing, still learning, still maturing emotionally and spiritually, they were teaching me even when I didn’t notice it and dropping nuggets I took through my journey. Every person, place, or thing has a timestamp, we just don’t know until the time is up. What I’ve come to learn is that within that time, there were messages, there were do’s and don’ts, there were laughs and cries, there was love and there was healing, there were things we learn and things we wish we didn’t have to learn. The time we carry with us is limited, the people that walk in your journey, friend, family, or foe are for a time. When is our time up? We do not know our clock, we just know it has hands that carry us each second, minute, and hour through our journey, and what we do with it is mostly in our control but, also the control of mother time. Forgive yourself and others for their time being up, they were not meant to be carrying you any further than the time they had with you, keep pressing forward with new experiences that continue to allow you to grow into who you are becoming, welcome the next hour of love, life, laughs and cries, welcome the experiences time has to offer on your journey because, without time, we would not have them. Allow people to experience the person you are now and who you want to be, who you were meant to be and when the time is up, they’ll also understand how precious time is.
Time is actually on your side, you just have to understand what it’s telling you.
Love and Blessings, let yourself experience every moment in time.
Ste#BigSistahTalk
