When is it okay to not pay attention to the URGENCY of a matter?
By Jane Dovidio-Gagliardo aka Spicy
Urgent matters are usually never planned. Right? And sometimes the sense of urgency is only in our minds… that’s why they are considered urgent. But for me there are things I consider urgent that someone else may think is no big deal. I tend to panic or make things urgent that are, in hindsight, not so much. Lol. I even overreact or dramatize things on occasion. Okay, more than occasionally. But I am an Aries and although people born under the sign of Aries have a solid hold on most things, we can also be very reactive to situations as well.
Getting back to ignoring urgency, I feel that each of us have crossed that bridge at one time or another. There have been scientific studies on how we process urgent decisions and how it effects our emotional and physical being. The Oxford University Press said that “Urgency and stress go hand in hand.” They go on to say that when our brains identify something we think is urgent our stress levels go up. So how do we manage all the urgencies in our lives? According to the Management study, prioritizing is very important.
Some urgent situations are just that, urgent, and must be delt with immediately. But when we are sitting and thinking, how often do we start to breath heavy, even cry just thinking about an urgent situation? It’s all how we process it in our minds. I can tell you, from my own urgent situations, I can usually talk myself down. Emotional urgency can really play an enormous role in how our day and lives, in general, move forward. Think about it. How often after an urgent situation do we look back and realize that it really wasn’t that urgent? We tend to put more urgency in things than there needs to be. We also do not want to be judged or look badly upon because of the way we handled an urgent situation. But if we prioritize and keep it in perspective, I think we as a human race, would certainly benefit from the urgencies we face every day.
We say, “I had no choice but to react to that urgent matter.” But my point is… consider giving yourself choices. It’s how we react not how we counter-react. And we must try not to worry about how people will judge or comment on how we deal with the urgencies in our lives. If you can say “I did the best I could or reacted in the best way I knew how,” then that’s who you must go to bed with and feel a sense of contentment with. It is our job to be comfortable with who we are and the choices we make. Ultimately, other people’s perceptions become null and void.
So, remember to keep your urgencies in perspective and never ignore them, because they are urgent only if you allow them to be. Also keep in mind that human beings rarely make the best choices when we are operating from an urgent mindset. Hours later we will realize the situation we perceived to be “urgent” will not seem so urgent. I leave you with this mind and soul-nurturing quote; “The Only Urgency I Feel Is to Keep On, At Slow Pace, With My Journey.” Alessandro Michele
Stay Safe. Stay Strong. Stay Fearless.