UNTIE MY SOUL I don’t like it here
By Doris AC Johnson MA of Psy, ABA
When you think about intimacy…let me guess. Your initial thought is linking physically. While that’s all fine and well, it goes deeper than that.
Every time you expose yourself, you are allowing someone access to your spirit and the key to your soul. The chemical level or physical exchange births the connection. And that attachment clings to you and your soul by way of your body, which plays host to feelings that bind you emotionally to a relationship that you have disassociated yourself from… or want to move beyond this predicament. Being bond to this link is restrictive. Unfortunately, your mind and heart have run out of places to hide because your soul is tied. While there is such thing as healthy soul ties, there are the more bothersome ones that take you to a place where you find that you just can’t let go.
I dated a guy who was below my dating scale, but it was the familiarity of him that drew me in. He had a reach that required my attention and my deficiencies attached to his dysfunctionality. Although I realized that his burdens were spilling on to me an otherwise healthy person, I tried to make dysfunction…functional. I tried to salvage the relationship we had even after I saw the emotional tears widening this gap that parted us…but that same gap was at the center of a blockage of my soul. It almost felt like it didn’t belong to me anymore. I couldn’t see it or taste it…and now I couldn’t feel it. He mixed within me, and separation from him was depleting me.
If this has happened to you or something very similar, you have reached a place where this unforeseen force has infiltrated your sanctuary…your temple…your YOU.
I want to cut the cord! But how? It took for my best friend to tell me (in part) what was happening with me. The smart thing that I did after realizing that I was deteriorating and bled was going cold turkey. I removed him from all devices of communication. I revoked his road map to ME. He was no longer on the GUESTLIST of my life! I wanted him gone from me as I felt taken over by this force…one of which I could not explain. My nights were uneven as I could still see his image in my life…but he wasn’t there. The fantasies of forever would be free to flee if I open my heart and hand and allowed that release. To put it plain…if you relapse…allow communication, it intensifies your feelings and makes it more difficult to remove the leach that robs you of peace and calm…to cut the cord…the severe the ties.
This point is this… Choose your mate with an open heart, open eyes, open ears, and closed legs!!