STOP RIGHT THERE! YOU ARE DATING A NARCISSIST! Part 3 RECOVERY
By Doris AC Johnson
You are going to have to sign yourself into a self-recovery program. Go cold turkey! Do not give him ammunition. Set boundaries! Reclaim your power and reclaim self. It is time to decide that you no longer want to be an actress on his stage reading from a script and fearful that you will be reprimanded if you mess up on your lines. LEAVE! Chances are, he has or will move on with someone else and will not look back. Dating a narcissist can smother your hope of ever finding true love and allowing what you desire to come into and remain in your life. Remember to breathe. The emotional scars are not easy to deal with and will attach itself to your next relationship which is sure to fail because you have suffocated any chance of happiness and a real bond if you carry the remnant and debris from the relationship prior. What I did not do was set boundaries. I did things to appease them because walking on emotional eggs shells is draining. Loving a narcissist is even more dehydrating. If in hindsight, you realize that you could have done things differently, it is not too late. Start again! Do not punish yourself. You have been chastised enough. Reclaim your time and energy and put each on a special reserve. Get completely naked and stand in front of a mirror and say to yourself, “I am worth it.” “It’s not my fault.” “I am not a victim because I survived.” “His loss because he Is missing out on a beautiful person which is me.” When you realize all the things you have missed, you can move on with your life. The only thing you did wrong was giving someone undeserving, good parts of yourself for far too long. Snatch it back. Let him go and be grateful that it has ended. Remind yourself that the longer you were involved with the narcissist, the longer the healing process will be. Do not fret. Just remember that Rome was not built in a day. Find your happy place and go to it!