Do Long Eyelashes, Long Flowing Hair Weave, and a Big Butt Get A Man?
By Ronald Yates
Following what appears to be the end of the year and a half-long pandemic, people are finally emerging from a long, forced relationship hiatus. For women who do not feel as if they can function without male companionship the past year of solitude would either make them or break them. Now that society is returning to what we consider normal, many of these women are seeking to fill that void in their life, but after the pandemic so much in America has changed. The question is “Has the dating landscape also changed.” If so, how does a woman get the attention of males in this post-pandemic era? One such way may be a relatively old phenomenon that has made a resurgence. The long eyelash craze has apparently, once again, taken hold and some of these lashes are easily 1.5 – 2 inches long. It’s often difficult to tell if they are blinking or preparing to take flight! Some comment it is their right to wear whatever they like, however they like.
When the comedienne Monique made a video discussing women who go out into the streets wearing head scarfs or pajamas her statements sparked a social media frenzy. Many women chimed in defending their right to leave their homes dressed however they like. Some will say what they choose to wear is totally up to them. Most times they are not attempting to get anyone’s attention male or female. They just want to feel comfortable.” There is something my father told me many years ago, “People are always watching you, even when you don’t think they are” that still resonates with me today. My father strictly enforced a dress code for all of his children and certain things just were not accepted or tolerated when it came to appearance. When we left the house, we were expected to be properly attired. But that was a long time ago. Today society has changed and, in many respects, not for the better.
Some of my single female friends ask me “Where to go to meet single men.” After being asked several times, I had to stop and think about how I found my wife. But I guess how one goes about finding a mate in the post-pandemic era 2021 has significantly changed. Today it is women who are actively and often aggressively pursuing men. As a result, men have become complacent and no longer feel the need to do the things that men did generations ago. Because women are the aggressors many, nowadays, have resorted to dressing provocatively, wearing long hair weaves and eyelashes that arrive a few seconds before the rest of their bodies. My question is ladies have any of you asked a man what he thinks of that style of dress? Before you answer let me do a little clarifying. First, if you are gay or have no interest in forming a male/female relationship then this does not apply to you. Now clarification on (A Man). Not every male child will become a man, some will develop physically, but will enter a state of arrested development as it relates to their mental and emotional growth, therefore, this is not who you want to ask. Nor do you want to ask the “Dirty Ole Man” who keeps a six-pack of Viagra ready. Who you want to ask is the brother who has functioning brain cells, who can hold an adult conversation without quickly switching topics to sex… for their own gratification.
If you are one of the millions of single women looking to meet a man and form a lasting relationship, the “What a man finds attractive” conversation could be beneficial. I think ladies would find that the vast majority of men, while they find the aforementioned style of dress sexy or provocative, they are not necessarily interested in marrying or forming a long-term relationship with a woman who thinks that style of dress is what a man wants. Not to be mistaken with men who only want their women dressing provocatively. In this case, it is not about the woman at all… this is about the man and his insecurities. But some of those very same men will ask the woman to change for certain social functions, case in point Melania Trump. I don’t want to make this a debate about Trump or any member of his family, I merely used Melania as an illustration. The point I’m trying to make is that for the vast majority of women who choose that style of dress most are still single. Unfortunately, big butts, hair weaves and long lashes are a dime a dozen.
What most men are looking for is a woman who, in many respects, are like their mothers. It is said that most men marry their mothers, most women marry their fathers depending on the relationships they have with their parents. If the relationship with their parents is a healthy one, meaning no dysfunction, then the children would want to emulate what they have seen and experienced growing up. If a man’s mother is a modest dresser, it is highly unlikely that he would want to be with someone whose wardrobe screams sex.
So, what’s your take on this topic? Do you believe that long eyelashes, long flowing weaved hair, and a big butt are what it takes to get and keep a man?