By Doris AC Johnson, Psy, ABA
We all have that one girlfriend that is always chewing on your ear about her relationship woes. I have been that friend. In that way of thinking, it is always this ginormous conundrum when in reality, it’s the tangled web she wove. She keeps planting seeds in the same hopeless garden, expecting the perfect harvest, and then emotionally devastated when her crops keep failing. DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT.
Making a way out of no way is admirable in terms of maneuvering through, muddling through troubled waters, and surviving and shifting into complete survival mode. However, it is not the pen you want to use when drafting the blueprint of your relationship.
It’s tough out here on the dating scene. Unfortunately, women are now courting men. After you have knocked down the barriers, imploded emotional walls, some “act right” is the expected ultimate gift. But if you are anxiously waiting for any crumb and asphalt to fulfill your purpose, excuse my tongue, but its’ your ass fault for lessening your expectations and acceptance and doing it, all the same, every time.
While it is true that all relationships hit a brick wall or two or three or four…there are roadblocks. I will not be unfair or unreasonable. However, the biggest roadblock is the one you create for yourself. Do you know the truth but believe all the lies you keep telling yourself? Do you go in with your eyes wide shut? Respectfully, just as all things fall apart…those very same things come back together if you let them.
Again, I will say that I HAVE BEEN THERE AND DONE IT…reaching for roses, being pricked by the sharpness of the thorns that were camouflaged with compliments and niceties. None of what I am saying here is news. If you know me and have been following me, I have said it all before….and I am going to keep saying it!
Ok, you WANT different and you want to do better. Well, do not keep rallying to be inducted into the idiocracy hall of fame because you are well on your way. Again, let me say that we all trip. We all make mistakes, but you, My Love are tripping over your own feet. “But I’m never going to find someone like him.” Say amen, raise your hands to the sky, give my God the glory, honor, and praise for saving you. He is also in your way! Dear heart, you are blowing air into a balloon with a hole in it. Sweet Potato, you are doing chest compressions on a dead relationship. Lamb Chop, you are cutting grass with scissors. Honey Bun, you cannot catch a cloud in a glass. I think you get my point. I HOPE you understand and if not, the point is this; I have heard it said that starting over is a wonderful thing because you are not starting from scratch, you are starting from experience.NourishMEANT for supper whether you are hungry or not, some of yall be trying to use the same recipe. Comment, Like, Share, Cuss me out…Hey! Call me if you have my number and I will recap this because you heard what I said, I heard what I said, I meant what I said, so there is no getting around you being sure that I SAID WHAT I SAID..