TABLE FOR TWO TOO
By Doris A. Johnson
If you have not read, listened to, or viewed me speaking on the prequel to Table For Two Too…you should. This theory is one of the most significant of the premises that I live by. In recapping Table For Two…the table for two represents two people being on the same page early in the courting process. It represents serving and delivering what you claim is on the menu. I am insistent that you are consistent.
On the flip side, because you know I always have one… as we know that presentation is everything, we cannot expect to get what we are not willing to or ready to give. I was speaking to a male friend the other day that brought something to my table (in a matter speaking). He said that some women are overly suspicious from the gate. I will not deny that I have been that woman. Instinctively, I wanted to know who sent the interested party to me. Why did I do this? I have done it because some of the men that have come to my table were serving frozen steak with garnishments on a paper plate…and nothing else. In essence, that means that he offered me something potentially fancy on a disposable plate…no drink because that would make me and keep me thirsty. Thus in such, accepting and yearning for more crumbs. I almost got what I wanted, but his presence was temporary…the paper plate represented his pending absence and disappointment. This is not the prelude to destiny and fate.
The point is this, women we cannot expect all the amenities that a blossoming relationship can offer if our presentation is based heavily on suspicion. Do not misunderstand me! Being careful is a wise and reasonable decision. I will forever stand by that school of thought. I am not at all abandoning my approach. I maintain that having expectations is synonymous to having healthy standards. Everybody deserves that and I am not suggesting that you scale back.
Let me be the first to say that I have seen everything but Jesus in my experiences with men. No one else is the blame for that. Life happens. The best thing for me and any woman to do is carry one, be intentional and remove our finger from the emotional trigger. The new him is not the old him at the gate. When and if you determine that he is a familiar stranger, safely remove yourself.
We might have to change what we are serving to attract the man that has the same thing on his menu.
nourishment for supper: If you go in with open wounds, he will only be a band-aid and a cracked mirrored reflection of yourself. Scars are the aftermath of a wound. When healing has taken place, the scars cannot and will not bleed. That is how you know you know you know for sure that you are ready to sit down and eat. We look back when we are either afraid of what could possibly come or miss what we had. I am not from outer space. I am just out of space. If a man would like to know what I want him to bring to my table…Please bring a table. Do not mind me, I am already eating, but I will be happy to fix you a plate. Unapologetically, I said what I said.