By Doris AC Johnson MA of PSY
Between stimulus checks, unemployment, and taxes, people are making foolish, outlandish, and impulsive purchases and decisions. It is unreal. I saw a man playing frisbee with a bobcat that had gold fronts and a woman walking a purple unicorn on a diamond leash across the freeway in opposing traffic. Seriously, people are buying nerves, buying time, and let us not even talk about audacity. It must be on sale because either it’s flying off the shelves, or they are giving it away with a double coupon. Audacity everywhere! I have never seen anything like it in all my days.
People are in whole relationships showing no indication and masking their true objectives with a bouquet of lies. Where do they get the nerve? Bold! No regard for anyone other than themselves. I know that lying or discontinuing the truth has been an issue and topic of concern dating back to the day that God gave Eve Adam’s rib and that scientifically, there is no cure. No matter how many times you set the table for two, there is almost always an uninvited or unexpected guest. Unfortunately, you might just be the outsider…and now you’re feeling self-imposed to accommodate him although he took it upon himself to schedule your journey like you have no voice of your own…no presents or presence. I am guilty of increasing a man’s emotional credit line when he had already exceeded the limit and the moment, but I was hopeful and later shocked that someone would have the gumption to vie for my attention with no true intention. Who does that?
It takes a lot of nerve to chase a woman for years, catch her, and have no idea what to do with her. Your only defense is that she was a handful never once accepting that your hands were just too small for the job. I hope you like who you see in the mirror staring back at you. I am sure you probably do because you have fooled yourself into thinking that you are ok.
You’re a sketch artist creating any face that you want to present, or either you are a makeup artist because you are designing everything to be pleasing to the eye when you know that underneath it all…the thick foundation that will melt in the sun, the concealer that has to constantly be reapplied, and the highlights that pop in the places that you want to be more pronounced…you look exactly like that unsuspecting woman’s husband. Shame on you for making all these changes to only remain the same. You are no different. You are a familiar stranger, again and again, wearing different masks for the same occasion…to be a shell, a remnant, a waste of skin, a handful of dust where a man should be standing. And I cannot do this with you today, yesterday, or tomorrow.
To each its own but I will not allow you to infringe your audacity upon me.
On the flip side, because you know I always have one…ladies stop it. If you know the relationship is built in quicksand and teetering on lies, deceit, fancy gifts, and excursions…have a limit. And if you find that you do not know how to put a cap on your emotions and illusion of what is clearly based on your delusion, have several seats. And as a common courtesy, the first one will be pulled out for you.
Let me offer you this Nourishment for supper. If your mate must prove a point to prove a point…stop right there. If you must retire your happiness to make someone else happy or give off the air of being happy…stop right there. The first person you see in the mirror each day is you. And if you don’t like her, no one HAS to know, but it shows in the way you function in your relationships. You cannot make a man do right. All you can do is be responsible for your own actions.